The Great Laundry Debate: Which Side Are You On?
My husband and I have one argument that- we might just take to the grave. Is it in regards to infidelity, politics, money or the rearing of our kids? NO, it is a far more earth shattering issue- one that has the potential to go to the very epicenter of our relationship and threaten its very existence. IT’S LAUNDRY!
My husband believes that clothes do not get dirty unless a child/adult rolls around in a mud pit - which is in direct contrast to my belief that wearing clothes for an entire day renders them worthy of being tossed in the hamper.
My husband’s side: “I mainly work from home-so I don’t need to dress up during the day. I sometimes wear the same hoodie for five days straight. It is usually two layers away from my skin, and I also wear my jeans for five to seven days. My wife wants me to change these clothes every two days. My children go to school and wear school uniforms-and I do not see any reason why my son can’t wear the same pair of pants for two to three days and my daughter can’t wear the same jumper more than once, if they’re not dirty to the eye. I think Melissa washes clothes too often and I guess I may be a little on the dirtier side.”
My side: “My husband truly thinks clothing should only be washed, if it has been worn while digging a ditch. Otherwise, simply wearing clothing once does not warrant a washing. My husband thinks I am obsessive about cleanliness. OH - and when it comes to actually doing the laundry my husband might use a 1/4 cup of detergent on a VERY large load- whereas I on the other hand am very generous about using a full cup of sweet smelling detergent to clean our dirty clothes.
So when it comes to laundry in a marriage - do you do it, does your husband do it - or is he like my husband who yells at me every time I wash his jeans?
Holly Rosen Fink: My husband doesn't do it unless I ask. As a feminist, I wonder how I got myself this situation. I wish it was more equal, but even when there is a laundry basket full of clothes sitting in front of him, he ignores it.
Rebecca Einstein Schorr: When I left my full-time job to stay home with the kids (a much longer story); I became responsible for the domestic stuff. My husband does occasionally toss a load of laundry in the washer or dryer...and then announces it as though it's worthy of a monument and/or a medallion.
Donna Schwartz Mills: My husband hasn't done the laundry since the time he put a load in and then asked me, "What's Clorox?" (In his defense, that is not a brand he grew up with in the UK). By the time I got to the machine, the entire load had been ruined. In his defense - he does the ironing.
Mara Rubinoff Shapiro: I do the laundry because I work from home. My husband just seems to not do it, as if he doesn't see that it's sitting there, unless it benefits him, such as washing his own shirts & ironing them to save going to the cleaners. He also does it wrong on purpose, such as when I ask him to fold, he gives the kids the wrong clothing, so I won't ask him to do it again.
Sara Hawkins: I'm very fortunate because my husband not only helps out with the laundry, he has expertise in both the washing and folding. In college he worked at a popular clothing store and learned how to fold, hang and stack clothes. After grad school he worked for a major consumer products company in the laundry care group and knows more about laundry and products for cleaning fabric than most. While I tend to do most of the laundry, he's very comfortable doing it. When it comes to his bicycling clothes, that's all him!
Esti Berkowitz: He does do it, but only when I ask. Even if he goes to bring up the clothes from the dryer, I am very happy! A few less steps for me, that's for sure! This is a benefit of marrying an older guy; he had to wash his own laundry before he met me :)