Top 5 tips For Spending Mother's Day With Your Mother-in-Law (according to my husband)
It's been nearly 12 months and we are still grieving my dad's passing. It's hard to articulate the mourning process because it is so individual- while I like to talk to ANYONE who will listen; my mother wants to see NO ONE. She wants to hole up in her bedroom with several boxes of cookies, Turner Classic Movies and never reenter natural daylight. I get it, really I do. I can’t fathom, after having lived with someone for 47 years, the inability to see, touch, feel and talk to that person. So we’re rotating my mom between our houses- and since I live closest, she’s currently sitting in my living room and we’re watching a GUNSMOKE marathon. So how does my husband feel about his Mother-in-law hanging with us… indefinitely? Really at this moment in time, he’s just going to have to suck it up. I can’t leave my mother alone right now, none of us can, she’s so fragile and any song, photo, or even a telephone conversation can send her into a tailspin of gut wrenching sobs that are heartbreaking.
This experience of losing my father has taught me invaluable lessons about the resiliency of marriage, and what good husband material is truly made from. And I've come to the conclusion that it all boils down to this; a man who will be nice to his mother in law (despite her erratic behavior and sometimes off color commentary) is a keeper. And since this Mother's Day we will be spending the day with my mom, I asked my husband-goaded on by me- to compile a list for her and every other mother-in-law who is interested in finding her son-in-law's sweet spot, for his top 5 tips to ensure a harmonious Mother's day for both a son-in-law and a mother in-law, especially when they are spending the holiday together.
#1 -Shut your pie hole. Let your son-in-law believe you think that everything he does is amazing- and DON’T tell your daughter who, during the throes of passion, might leak out what you REALLY said, “That bum son-in-law”.
#2- When you are near him and not near him, heap him up with compliments to the kazoo. You want to keep your daughter from ever coming back to your house (after you finally got rid of her) and so you must make him feel like he is the king of not only his castle- but of everyone’s castle.
#3 -Tell him constantly (even when you know he is doing wrong) that he is the best parent that has ever roamed the earth. He’ll treat your grandchildren better and he may just flash you his pearly whites every once in a while. And if he is saying something that you don’t agree with when it comes to your daughter or grand kids- don’t confront- just WALK out of the room, and add more Bailey’s to your coffee mug.
#4- Shower him with gifts. Not just for his birthday- but gifts just for being a great son-in-law. C’mon who doesn’t like to be spoiled!
#5-Filter everything you say, so that it comes out squeaky clean. Ultimately both you (and your daughter) will be the recipient of his goodness. Also you never want to be the reason for any strife between your daughter and son-in-law because that just means her and the kids will pack it up and be waiting at your doorstep.
Got any to add?!
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