Want To Avoid Divorce Court? Get a maid
Who does the majority of the housework in your marriage? If you share household chores with your husband, you may be surprised to hear that your relationship could be in trouble.
This is according to a recent Norwegian study on the links between marriage, housework and happiness. Researchers studied data on thousands of Norwegians and found that divorce rates were actually higher among couples that shared housework equally—and they were significantly higher when the man in the relationship did the majority of the cleaning.
These findings go against the popular belief that gender equality at home protects against divorce, explained one of the co-authors of the study. Really? I don’t know about you, but I think I’d feel resentment towards my husband if I was stuck doing most or all of the housework.
Growing up, my parents shared household duties -- my dad did laundry and some of the grocery shopping – and their egalitarian marriage seemed perfectly fair to me. Ideal, even. In my home, my husband and I share the work, too. He does most of the cooking, and I do all of the laundry. We both push around the vacuum, swish cleaner in the toilet and take out the trash.
But since both of us have the tendency to be lazy and get grossed out by hairballs, we decided to hire a cleaning lady once a month to really deep clean our home. She is a blessing. No more arguing over whose turn it is to scrub the shower!
Want to avoid divorce? If you’re not willing to become best friends with your rubber gloves, I suggest splitting the easy chores with your husband and bringing in outside help for the dirty work. Or you could always flip a coin to see who’s on bathroom duty. As they say in The Hunger Games, “May the odds be ever in your favor!”