When Did "Downtown" Become Main Street?
I'm really not sure when this happened. Or what movies, music or other societal influences led us to this point, but it recently became obvious to me that “going downtown” has now been demoted to first base status.
And when I say obvious, I mean more than three men have told me that going downtown is pretty much an early prerequisite for continued dating privileges.
Remember the good ole days when oral sex was considered a highly intimate act, perhaps even more so than regular sex.
But now, oral sex is considered less intimate and even more casual than casual sex. I knew this was true with the teens, what with YouTube and all, but I was hoping some adults were still holding on to adult values and not being swayed by MTV and hip hop lyrics.
Recently I was having brunch with a male cousin, who's been my informal dating coach of sorts giving me insights into the (weird) male psyche.
I shared with him that I had just started dating this guy that I really liked. Things were going great but I sensed he is seeing other people. My "coach" suggested that I solidify my position as a "keeper" by offering the downtown service. He said if I wasn't, somebody else definitely was and that a lot of men think educated, successful women are way too uptight to go there. It is my job to show that I'm not that type of successful woman.
That old "lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" thing again.
I don't judge any woman on how soon she decides to make a trip "downtown" but I don't like men who expect it too soon. Or every time you yawn, they're trying to push your head down! Meanwhile, most of them aren't as willing to return the favor. GTHOH!
If this is the new look of main street dating, I may have to take a side road.
Have you found men expect oral sex way too soon?