Hold Your Horses Halle. Engaged? I Hope Not.
As a huge Halle Berry fan, I'm hoping and praying that the recent rumors of her engagement to Olivier Martinez, her boyfriend of about a year, are just rumors.
I'm not a playa hater and I certainly want Halle to find love and happiness, but as a twice divorced woman myself, I also know that sometimes you have to stop and think.
Think about what choices led to two divorces and one (not so amicable) baby daddy relationship failure. Think about why you're in a relationship and why you gravitate to certain types of men. What can you learn from the past? To endure two divorces and other failed relationships without thinking long, hard and deep about those failures (it always takes two) and being fully responsible for them, makes you as respectful of marriage as Kim Kardashian.
Most importantly, think about the fact that you can't have a successful relationship until you deal with YOU. Here's a reality check: every time you move on to a new man, YOU are still there. Your "stuff" is still there.
I learned this lesson the hard way.
Oh and P.S., switching from black to white European to now, French men doesn't help either. Your stuff transcends race lines and travels internationally.
Now, Halle, I know single motherhood is hard. I have two children. And lots of gray hairs. And I know even moms get lonely at night. The only thing warm next to me of late, is my laptop.
But when you add motherhood to the mix you have a greater responsibility to double check yourself before you wreck yourself. And your kid. You've got other, more helpless people being impacted by your decisions, and that's not to be taken lightly.
So, I’m hoping the diamond and emerald ring, is just a sign of love and commitment—commitment to being your best self.