Tween and Teenagers
10 Things Not Worth Fighting About With Your Teens
When my kids began to grow up and start having opinions about things I thought it was my job to stay in charge, you know, be the boss; it was my way or else, which meant an argument was pretty much going to follow suit at some point. Now that I have one child out of the house and the other about to enter high school I have come to the conclusion that there are just some things not worth arguing over with my teenage children.
I wanted to share my thoughts on the subject with those of you who are entering into the wonderful world of teenager-hood or the parents in the midst of fighting those battles. But as I sat down to write this, I realized I could not come up with ten things that I remember arguing about; however I know we argued quite often.
With my “tail between my legs” I chat messaged my daughter who was quite quick to come to my aid and help jog my memory. With her help I was able to finish the task and confirm that all that arguing was a waste of time and once I gave up the fight, our lives became so much better. So here goes…..
1. Your teenage son wears the same clothes to school that he slept in? Chances are he put on the clean clothes before he went to bed so he could sleep a few extra minutes and not spend the time getting dressed. At least he is dressed and ready to go to school.
2. There are books and papers and homework strewn all over your daughter’s floor? Seriously, if it is books and homework, you know she is studying so just let it be.
3. The toilet paper roll has been empty for three days and the spare roll is sitting on the bathroom sink. Hey, at least they are using toilet paper; remember when they were potty training and they had that mess everywhere?
4. Their bed has not been made in two weeks. Yes, an unmade bed makes for an unsightly room, but be thankful that they are home safely snuggled in that bed full of wadded up sheets and blankets. They are safe and you know where they are at night.
5. Your son eats cold pizza and diet Pepsi for breakfast. Most of the basic food groups are in pizza and the fact that he had something to eat is a blessing. There are lots of kids who do not have any food to eat.
6. When you come down the steps for Easter Sunrise Service at 6:30 a.m. and you find your teen son wearing denim shorts, a t-shirt and his favorite college hoodie with something stuck to the front of it and ask him what it is and he tells you it’s baked beans from the cookout the day before. Take a deep breath and get in the car. First of all it’s way too early to argue and second, he is going to church with you willingly so leave it alone. Besides, he scraped the baked beans off with his pocket knife, so technically it is clean…right?
7. Bedtime. Because they will eventually figure out on their own that sleep is a precious thing, and it might take a few late nights playing video games to realize it. Think of it as a learning experience.
8. Do not make your children undress outside on the porch after playing in the snow because you don't want your floor to get wet. They will grow up to think that a clean house is more important than it actually is. And, besides, it's really cold out there. You can strive to have that perfectly clean, everything in its place home and will more than likely make your children feel inferior which will leave you sitting in that perfectly clean organized home one day without your children.
9. Do not try to force your children to dress like you think they should. It is more than okay for your daughter to wear t-shirts and jeans and skateboard shoes. Girls do not have to wear lace and ribbons to be beautiful. And boys, well just be glad they are dressed and have brushed their teeth.
10. Yes, dirty clothes belong in the hamper or whatever your designated spot is, however, in the teenage mind, they belong on the floor and no matter how many times you belly ache about it they will still put them on the floor. And one day, in the not so distant future, they will leave home for college and you are going to sit in the middle of that clean bedroom and wish with all your heart that those dirty clothes were still all over the floor.