Abandoning Opinions for Experiences
Two weekends ago I went on an overnight campout with my daughter. While that doesn’t seem all that exciting, let me add that until now I have tried to avoid camping at all costs. I’m not a fan of nature and being in the woods when the sun goes down. The whole notion of darkness and wilderness is a little too Blair Witch for my taste. However, I went along with her and until recently, it hadn’t dawned on me that there is a lesson to be learned here.
I’ve tried camping in the past and I don’t like it. I like my amenities (like electricity, hot water, and indoor plumbing). I would have called upon our “try everything once rule” to say that I’ve tried it and I don’t like it so I don’t have to do it in order to relieve me of attending the camp out. However, I’m hoping that because I DID try it again and I did have a good time with my daughter that I can use it to my advantage whenever the kids remind us that they have tried something before and they too, don’t like it.
Opinions can change if we let them.
My reason for not liking camping was based on a bad camping experience as a little girl. As kids (and adults) we base a lot of our reasons for liking or not liking things on experiences. What we fail to realize is that as we grow older and wiser, we have the ability to change our experiences and our opinions of things (and people). If we refuse to try again at anything we’ve ever had a bad experience in, we run the possibility of losing out at so much in life.
It’s like riding a bike; very few people ever get on a bike and take right off without falling. We fall, we get back up and we do it again in the hopes of getting it right. We don’t fall off and decide that all bikes are bad or that we don’t like them. We get up, dust off, and give it another go. It’s moments like those that I like to channel my inner Dory and “just keep swimming”.
I think my daughter knows the lesson that was learned that weekend. As we were pulling out of the campground, I asked her, “Well? Did you have fun?”
She looked at me with a slow smile and replied, “I did. And I think you did too. Even if you didn’t think you would.”
This girl. She’s smarter than her momma ever was at that age.