Appreciating Family Traditions
When I was growing up, I took most of my family traditions for granted. It wasn’t until my parents split up that I realized just how important some traditions were. It was during that time that I realized that sometimes it isn’t about the actual event or things that make the tradition memorable, it’s the people involved. I distinctly remember one year giving my brothers and sister heck for not wanting to go pick out the Christmas tree for our dad’s house. We had done it every year as a family for as long as I could remember.
They could only see an afternoon wandering around hundreds of acres of pine trees trying to find a tree that everyone could agree on.
I could see the bigger picture.
With age comes wisdom I guess.
Some families fill their holidays with traditions and work towards making the entire season as memorable as possible. While we don’t have a lot of family traditions, there are a few traditions in my family that we just don’t mess with. Going to my dad’s house every year on Christmas night is one of them. Rain or shine, we always go. Except one year when everyone in the house was vomiting. That’s the one year I got a free pass. It’s something that my sister, brothers, and I look forward to every year. It’s a tradition that I can remember back to when I was a little girl and we met on Christmas night at my grandparents. Now that my grandparents are gone, my dad has continued the tradition. I don’t think our holidays would be the same without it.
This year we started a new family tradition by purchasing a permanent Christmas tree. We’ve always gotten a live tree for Christmas but every year dread tossing it out to let it die. We knew we wanted to be friendlier to our earth so we decided, rather than buy a cut tree, we would get a permanent one and then plant it after Christmas is over. Not only have we chosen a greener alternative to removing our tree when Christmas is over but we can begin marking the Christmas’s with a tree every year with a living reminder in our backyard (we have 3 acres, don’t worry it will take a few years to fill the space).
Who knows? Maybe next year we will start a new tradition by decorating the outdoor tree and the indoor tree.
With all of the kids getting older, I think they’re getting to the age where they can appreciate our family traditions. The one thing I’ve never wanted our kids to feel is pressure to participate in our family traditions every year but I’m pretty certain that as they grow up, they look forward to these moments as much as I do.