The Cuffs Are Not Enough
I saw the headline, "Kindergartner Arrested After Throwing Temper Tantrum in School." I was angry at first. Who takes a child in handcuffs off school grounds for a temper tantrum? Then after I viewed the video and heard the full story, I was positive it was the right decision.
The parents' excuse for their child's behavior furthered my conviction that this was indeed the right course of action. They basically dismissed her behavior and instead of thanking the officials for protecting their child, they blamed the system. If a child is acting violent and throwing furniture, they could injure themselves or others so swift action needs to be taken. If a teacher or administrator touches a child, then they could be open to a lawsuit. Calling the police is the right answer since they have different rights than a normal citizen.
When did working in a school resemble the World Wrestling Federation ring? When are we going to stop making excuses for poor behavior? School is a place for education. It was not my job as a teacher to teach a child how to behave. When I taught, the majority of my job was doing just that.
Want to know why we are behind other countries in education? it is because children come to school without manners, appropriate behavior, and to top it off they have a sense of entitlement that was not present when I went to school. Then to make matters worse they have parents who back up their bad behavior.
I can't tell you how many conversations I have had with parents who made excuses for their children's lack of homework completion, failure to arrive to class on time, utilization of inappropriate language or use of force to find resolutions. I actually had to walk out of a meeting because I was so irritated over a parent justifying throwing a food tray at another child. If my child threw something in anger, then that item is gone and punishment results. I would not provide an explanation for their behavior. I would provide an appropriate punishment. School is a place of education. All children need to demonstrate behaviors that facilitate academics.
If I would have done this when I was a child, I wouldn't be able to sit for weeks. My parents would have had me apologize to every person in that school and write letters to everyone that I could have hurt.
I say children who think they can act violent deserve real consequences. According to her parents, this child has a history of this behavior. Their excuse is it's "mood swings." You know everyone has them. Yes, I have mood swings but that does not mean I can throw objects at people. I hope this child learns her lesson and this visit to jail is her last, and not her first of many.
Would I want my child taken to jail for throwing furniture? The answer is absolutely. Especially if after repeated attempts to get my child to stop but they didn't. It is an educator's job to educate, not to put up with misconduct and violence.
It is about time that parents stop making excuses and instead require their children to act appropriately. I would do what it takes and get the help I need to make sure my child knew a way to express his or herself without resorting to violence. It doesn't matter if this child is 6 or 16. Throwing, yelling, and ripping things off walls is not justified. If you wonder why in this country we spend more on jail than education, the answer is we make excuses for poor behavior instead of creating resolutions that work. We would rather take the easy way out than put the work in to creating change.
I am perfectly willing to pay as a tax payer for the police to come and show children where they will end up if their behavior continues, than to pay for them to live in jail in the future. Is this child heading for jail? I am not sure. It all depends on if she receives the help she deserves.
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