The Duggars Expecting 20th Child: How Many Kids Should You Have?
I just read the announcement that the Duggars are expecting their 20th child and I’m exhausted just thinking about that many kids! For those that watch the Duggars’ reality show “19 Kids and Counting”, they know that Michelle’s last pregnancy had some dangerous complications, which forced the birth of their daughter, Josie, to be born 3 months early.
For many (or maybe most!) of us, that would be the point to stay enough is enough, but The Duggars believe that every child is a gift of God and “there is always room for one more”. All this talk of more children made me think of my own journey as a mother. Deciding on how many children to have is not an easy decision.
Health, finances, space, sanity – there are plenty of considerations to make when you are deciding to expand your family, and everyone has an opinion. For those with one child, the question always arises, “when will you have more”. If you have two of the same sex, people often ask if you’ll give it another shot for the opposite sex. But something changes with three. When I became pregnant with my third child, many people seemed shocked that we were having more than two, as if that was the golden standard. It is true; adding a third child brings more challenges because not only are the adults “outnumbered”, but other decisions must be made, such as sleeping arrangements, transportation needs, and additional financial obligations.
In the past 5 months since my daughter was born, I’ve also noticed that the way people look at our family has changed. There is a brief moment of fear as our family of five enters a store or restaurant. It makes me wonder how larger families are viewed by the general public.
Do people judge families with more than two children?
If you want more children in your family, why not have them, especially if your family is financially and medically able?
I believe each of my children is a Gift, but I also know that to stay a happy and healthy mommy, 3 is plenty for my family. For the Duggers, who live debt-free, have strong morals, and appear to be a happy family, having another child may be a natural step. My only concern is for the health of Michelle Duggar since carrying and delivering 20 babies has to take a toll on a woman’s body.
What do you think? How do you decide how many children to have in your family? Is 20 just too many?