Giving Love and Kindness This Month and Every Month
Do you remember seeing the movie Pay it Forward with the very young Haley Joel Osment? Like the movie or not, it was the meaning of the movie that hit home with me. The idea of people doing something kind hearted for no other reason than they thought selflessly of themselves. Kind of amazing right? Yes, but not practiced nearly enough anymore I don’t think.
I don’t know that I’ve ever had a plan well thought out enough to consider it a random act of kindness. Mine have been more accidental or simple. If I see someone in the grocery store and they are short a dollar or change and I happen to have it, I’ll offer it. I’ve given away things to people who I know can use them (like kids’ clothes and such) with never the notion that the goodness will come back to me. I just did it because… well, I was there and the opportunity to do good was available.
Two years ago I was floored by an act of kindness bestowed on my own family. It was a couple of months after Hub’s car accident and we found that he’d be out of work until right before Christmas. Can you imagine the freak-out I was going through? We had birthdays and Christmas all within 6 weeks of each other. I was. A Hot. Mess.
But a friend of ours stopped over one night to see how hubs was doing and to let her kids play with ours. It was a good visit. At the end of her visit she went outside to warm up her car and came back in with a large styrafoam cooler full of food and numerous grocery bags full of toiletries, paper towels, napkins, and more non perishable food. She also handed me a card to help us get started on the birthdays and Christmas gifts I was panicking about.
I could not wrap my head around what she had done for us. The hubby and I have known this friend since high school and we know the goodness that’s in her heart but the kindness… the random, unexpected kindness is what completely blew us away. There have been other moments too where a friend saw I was struggling with something and went well beyond her role as a friend to step in and give me the lift I needed to accomplish what was important to me.
Even though we live in a very self-centered and self-absorbed world, I’ve been lucky enough to surround myself with the kindness of beautiful people who have inspired me to be kinder. I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t have to be a monetary kindness, it can be an offer of a few me-time mom moments from friend to friend or a long chat with an old friend.
In the case of Nate and J, the people behind Drop a Love Bomb, it is the random, yet very deliberate act of helping another person with kind words when they need it most, and letting them know that someone is thinking of them when they are hurting. They have a network of thousands of bloggers and just… people who make it their mission to brighten someone’s day in just five minutes. Beautiful right? They’ve gone on to keep the love and kindness spreading by launching another site Love Drop where they choose a family to help every month. Every family’s needs are different but these guys move mountains to make it happen. It’s a new concept for them but it’s just one step to make sure that love and kindness reaches far beyond five minutes.
February is the month of love and Random Acts of Kindness, don’t limit your love and kindness to your spouse and children or even to just one month out of twelve; love and kindness shouldn’t be squandered, it should be spread often and abundantly.
What have you done to show someone an act of kindness? I’d love to hear your stories!