Giving My Teenager Advice on Love
There isn’t enough alcohol or sedatives in the world to get me through the upcoming teenage years. Some topics, like sex, may scare the daylights out of me; even if I do put on a brave face. But when it comes to love... Oi vey! Cupid or Aphrodite I am not!
In many ways, I’m glad that I have more boys than girls because hopefully, and I do mean HOPEFULLY, there won't be too many broken hearts walking through my door. I pray that l only have to give my shoulder to one heartbroken teenager at a time.
Two years ago, I was hit for the first time with questions about love and girls from a then 12-year-old Bug. This was the first time he’d ever hinted that aside from video games, sports, or cartoons, girls were even on his radar. It was an eye opener for me to say the very least and looking back, I can only hope that I handled it correctly.
Still, the one thing that stands out the most in that conversation was how I hoped he would treat the girls that become lucky enough to be his girlfriend.
The Golden Rule Still Matters, Even in Love
We try to raise our kids with the golden rule “Do unto others…” in mind. I think that as parents that’s a good rule to follow but for some reason, by the time dating and love becomes a part of growing up for our kids, that rule falls by the wayside. I told him that girls want to be treated with respect and kindness; the same way that he did. Realizing that hormones will be a big factor in choosing a girlfriend, I reminded him that if he does nothing else, to remember that girls are people too. Other guys may use them or hurt them but if he wanted to be the guy that every girl wants for a boyfriend, how he treated the girls he dates will play largely into that outcome.
Love and dating is just the beginning for teenagers. I can’t answer all their questions about love but if the advice I give them is honest and sincere, it will go a long way towards them making the right choices about matters of the heart.