In-Laws, For Better or For Worse
I was one of those girls in high school that every boy's mom liked. When I'd hang out at a friend or boyfriend's house, I'd spend just as much time chatting with the mom as I would spend with the friend. In fact, one ex-boyfriend's mom continued to stay in touch with me for years after the boy and I had parted ways.
I always imagined that my future mother-in-law would be just like the other moms, my family in-law just as close to me as my blood relatives. I imagined joint holidays with both my family and my spouse's family, outings with sisters-in-law, joking with brothers-in-law, happiness all around. Unlike most women who like to keep their mothers-in-law in some far away location, I assumed we'd live close to my in-laws and visits would be frequent.
But the fact is that when I met my husband, we were both at college far away from home and far away from our families. I got to know my future husband without having ever met his family and quite frankly without knowing anything about them. By the time I flew to his home state and began meeting the members of his family, my heart was already set on him, and whether or not we all had tons of things in common played no part in my decision to be with him.
Now I don't have horror stories about in-laws like most people I know - although if you buy me a drink I could share a couple funny things - but the point is that I didn't end up with the dream I had of my huge extended family. For starters, my husband is not that close to his family, so why would they feel close to me? On top of that, they don't live anywhere near us. In fact, they're almost all a three hour flight away, a trip that we rarely make with two kids in tow and they rarely make because of other obligations. I also married a man who is the very opposite of me in many ways, so it makes perfect sense that his family is completely different from mine. Sure, everyone gets along, but after ten years of marriage I've realized that there are no joint holidays with my family in our future.
Regardless of all of this, I love my husband so the in-laws I've got are the in-laws I will have...for better of for worse.
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