Making New Year’s Resolutions A Family Affair
So I’m starting my new year off on the right foot by creating Mommy Resolutions. I’m sure as the year goes on, I’ll discover (and my kids will probably be wonderful enough to tell me) other things that I can improve on as a mom but I know I’m not the only one who needs some improving!
While I don’t want my kids to think that they are full of bad habits or need total makeovers, I do believe that they too can benefit from making New Year’s resolutions. Oh the heck with it! The whole family needs to make some!
Making New Year’s resolutions for the entire family might seem like a daunting task but not if you approach it as a fun learning experience. Your family resolution list should include things that would involve the whole family.
I’ve put together a list of things that you can include on your family new year’s resolution list; they will definitely be on mine!
Eat dinner three times a week as a family – Families are busier now than they ever were so it goes without saying that family dinners matter and give everyone a chance to reconnect after a long day.
Choose one night a week for TV free night – Whether you decide to use it for individual projects (like homework or dedicated reading time) or family fun time, a TV free night is a great way to save electric and disconnect from the world. You could even carry it a step further and make one night a week a media disconnect. That means no computers, cell phones, or television.
Date nights with Mom or Dad – This is a really cool way for the kids to just spend time with one of us. It doesn’t have to be expensive; it could be a trip to the park, library, maybe lunch out or a picnic. The point of the date “night” is that the kids get time with just mom or dad. Do it once a month and your kids will get a chance to reconnect with you.
While you’re creating a family resolution list, ask your kids if they’d like to make individual ones as well. You might be surprised to hear them say yes. The one thing I try not to do when the kids make their own list of resolutions is to call them “resolutions”. Instead we say that they are “goals for next year”. This way they might not feel like they are changing anything (like a bad habit), rather they are working towards a goal or starting something new.
Remember when you’re making New Year’s resolutions lists that you are as specific as possible. If you want your kids to include “clean their room” on their list of resolutions, that will feel like a big task to do keep up every week. Instead, you could simply ask them to “make your bed on the weekends”. It’s a smaller task, more specific and doesn’t seem vast. You can suggest that they have one or two items on their resolution list so they don’t feel overwhelmed by the idea.
Above all, let each member of the family have some input on what they want on the family resolution list. Some ideas may seem silly but if everyone is in agreement, why not try it?
Getting everyone to participate in making a family resolution list a great way to start the New Year off right!