Mother's Day Musings: "The days are long but the years are short."
"The days are the long but the years are short. "
Yes, this quote applies to life in general as we all struggle through our daily tasks and sometimes sweat the small stuff, but it perfectly describes the beauty of motherhood.
I never really and truly appreciated appreciated or understood just how much my Mom must have loved me until I became a Mom myself. As a kid, regardless of how good of a kid you are, your world generally revolves around you. Kids don't realize the sacrafices parents make or how deep the love of a mother really runs when blinded by youth.
My mother was an amazing role model for being a good mother and putting motherhood first above all else. My mother instilled in me crucial values that I think have led to the happy and successful life I've had so far - the value of hard work and dedication coupled with placing a high value on achieving excellence. Yes, I felt pressure as a kid, but I put lots of it on myself to succeed regardless of my parents' expections. As an only child there was lots of pressure to be the best as there was no one else to compare me to and I carried all the weight of my Mother's dreams for her children on myself. But at the end of the day, my Mom was the one that paved the way for me to achieve everything I ever did - from getting good grades in school to learning to be a considerate and thoughtful friend to winning a swim championship or running race.
Sure we had crazy battles during my teenage years. I'm somewhat heartbroken when I think of them now, when I understand my Mom only always had my best interests in mind. But talking to my girlfriends, I realize it seems all teen girls rage these battles against their Moms during those hormonal years. I fear my 5 year old daughter and I will someday fight when all I want to be is her best friend. But, we'll cross that bridge when it comes. And until then, I'm so lucky to be my 5 year old daughter's best friend and can't wait for the years of friendship, bonding, and milestone celebrations we'll share togehter over the next 30 years just as my Mom and I have done for the past 30 years.
I've added a little boy to the mix of my family too, so my days are full of 3 year old mischief but I'm hoping that he won't have any of those girl teenage hormones!
My mother was an amazing role model for being a good mother and putting motherhood first above all else. She was a stay at home Mom so she could be there for me at the drop of a hat whatever the need may be - from doctor appointments to class field trips to driving the carpool.
Her dedication to me, gave me the drive to find a way to juggle a part time entrepreneurial career with a full time go at Mommyhood. My life isnt' perfect, but I've found a middleground in my career that lets me put my kids first 99% of the time while still following my business dreams. This gift is priceless and if it weren't for my Mom, I'm not sure where I would be today.