Never Missing a Milestone
The first year of a baby’s life goes fast. So much happens that unless you’ve got eyes glued on him or her every minute of the day, there’s a chance you might overlook something. When Bug’s first smile came, I laughed and smiled so much that I made myself cry. Unfortunately his dad was at work when it happened and missed the big gummy grin. When I told him later that evening I could tell he was disappointed because he hadn’t been home and he couldn’t get Bug to replicate that first smile. Whenever there was a milestone that we couldn’t witness together there was a chance the other person might feel sad or disappointed at having missed an important moment.
Not wanting either of us to feel as though we were missing out, we decided that if a milestone happened and we didn’t witness it together that it was up to the parent who had that blessed experience to keep it to themselves. This way, there would be no sadness or disappointment over not being the one to see one of baby’s “firsts”. It was our way of honoring and respecting one another’s feelings and not miss out on these great moments in our children’s lives.
Of course as we had more kids, it was a little harder to keep the firsts to ourselves; big brothers and sister like to brag about what the baby did that day but for many years my husband and I were able to experience many firsts, both separately and together. We learned early on that we wouldn’t be able to catch them all together and that we might not even be the first person to see them. But for both of us, experiencing that moment as if it was our “first” was important.