Potty Training Trials
My first child was easy to potty train. The mere mention of potentially using the toilet rather than a diaper, and she was off and running. At 12 months, diapers were a thing of the past.
Children #2 and #3, however, wanted to take their time getting used to the idea. Still, when the time came and the diapers were removed, they, too, were on their way and interested in the great white throne.
Then came the youngest. Now, I know there are those coddled younger children, and I suppose, despite my best efforts (even going as far as inviting my infant niece to the party every week to change the dynamic) to not baby the smallest child, he still knows that he is and will forever be the baby in the family.
My youngest's attitude towards potty training has been nothing if not difficult. At first I thought he'd grow to become interested, but now it's apparent that interest has nothing to do with it. Instead, this little man has waged war against growing up and refusal to "sprinkle" in the water is just one area that he can control.
What we have tried:
- The 3-day method where you remove all distractions, put potties everywhere and pump the child full of fluids, hoping to get to the little receptacles as soon as they start sprinkling all over your floor.
- A sticker chart. This worked great for my third, who loved picking and putting stickers on her stars until she reached the end of the chart and claimed a prize, a pretty wrapped present or trip to Target for a bracelet of her choice. For this one, though, the stickers are something to fear and hate as they relinquish control to a higher power. (He does like the picture of the Flying Angels at the end of the chart, though.)
- Making a big deal out of underwear purchases. We've made a special trip, let him pick out his favorite characters and returned home with the soft, small briefs. While the excitement is great, it fades after the first accident, and we are right back at asking for diapers.
- Sitting. Sitting and more sitting. The kid can definitely control his bladder, as he will sit for hours and hours and hours, getting nervous only when he's not sure he can hold it some more, asking to get off and, yes, finally, just "sprinkling" all over the floor.
- Talking about being a big boy. From all the fun things big boys do to later bedtimes, more choices and the like, mention of such activities only cause this little guy to turn to his mommy and proclaim, "I'm never gonna be big boy, mama."
I'm sure there's more I could potentially add to that list of potty training failures, but here we sit, three weeks before the start of preschool and my 3-year-old still thinks the potty is something to be feared. I know I need him to be the one to choose at this point, such is his stubborn attitude, but the reverse psych I should be utilizing from my psych degree is falling flat.
Rather than throw my hands up in desperation, I'm plotting my next attempt at ridding myself of diapers: Removing them all from the house and casually mentioning that underwear are all we have left and preparing myself for load after load of laundry.
Wish me luck.
The Lifetime Moms are talking potty training on the latest episode of "Moms Get Real" with Juju Chang. Watch now: http://abcn.ws/pOlNvF