One Born Every Minute
Preparing For The Unexpected Birth
You're having a 'symptom-free' pregnancy and consider yourself one of the 'lucky ones'. No morning sickness, fatigue, backache, cramps or one of the other dozens of discomforts during pregnancy.
What if the unexpected happens as the big day rolls around? How can you prepare so you can have as much control as possible?
Here are a few essential tips to consider:
1) Gather up all your wants and needs. For example, who do you want to be there at your birth? Do you want to use a doula? Will your other children be present? Also think about your mobility: Do you want to be able to walk around or will you be confined to a bed? What about birthing positions? How about episiotomies, music and clothing? These are all things to be prepared for if you're able.
2) Consult and meet with your health care provider(s) before you give birth. We all know that every birth is different and that a "normal" birth can be widely defined. Make an appointment with the labor and birth area of your hospital or birthing center to have the staff go over your plan, provide feedback and make suggestions.
3) Be confident and opt for control over your birth. You can plan for the unexpected by using phrases like "If a cesarean is necessary" in your birth plan. This way, during your birth, if you're feeling pressured to comply with a procedure you're not comfy with, you can fall back on this and ask to think about it (if not an emergency).
4) Prepare with Positive Thinking. Your birth plan can focus on the positive. List what you do want and hope to have rather than use phrases like "We don't want...or we want to avoid." This can go a long way in making the "unexpected" less scary.
5) Don't blame yourself if things go awry or are out of your control. You might have wanted that natural birth and ended up with a c-section. This was not what you signed up for, but it is what reality ordered up.
Remember, if things don't go the way you have planned, it's okay. It’s a good mantra to have.