"Raising Bains" on A&E
I have been given the opportunity to review "Raising Bains", a new show that will be airing on the A&E network Monday, August 23 @ 11pm/10C.
It was described to me as "a one hour documentary", but it felt very much like a reality show much like "Jon and Kate Plus 8" or "19 Kids and Counting".
The Bain family have 13 children, 12 of whom have been adopted. 8 of those children are a sibling group who had been through numerous foster homes and were in danger of being separated before Mr. and Mrs. Bain adopted them.
Since I am a mother of 8, I was familiar with what life in a large family would look like. What was new to me, though were the obstacles many adopted children face.
Many of the children have challenging issues because of past abandonment and abuse. I was first turned off by what seemed to be bad behavior and chaos ruling the house, but after just a few minutes of watching I was so impressed by how patient and loving the parents are despite the many different problems the children face.
The father revealed that every imaginable form of abuse had been experienced by one child or another in their family before they were adopted. My heart was absolutely breaking to think of the feelings of anger and fear those children must have as an everyday companion.
The ages of the children ranged from preschool to teenage (plus one married son), so there were toddler temper tantrums and teenage attitude on display. The parents tried to always remain calm and loving, and I admired their dedication and perseverance.
One especially touching segment was during a HUGE meltdown of a 4-year-old. Even though the child was trying to get away and screaming repeatedly, "Let me GO!!!" The mother continued to hold and comfort him. When she tried to read him a book, his screaming diminished and, amazingly, he finally stopped crying and even snuggled up to her.
I think this show will be an eye opener in highlighting the challenges and rewards of adoptive families.
This review was written by Connie Hughes, mother of 8 rowdy children, wife for 25 years to 1 hunky golf pro, writer of stories, wiper of noses. She blogs daily about life in a large family at Smockity Frocks.