Sorry, Dads. We Can’t Be Friends!
We all know men and women CAN be friends... Right? But in certain situations, friendships between men and women can be a little tricky and should probably just be avoided. On a recent episode of "Up All Night," Christina Applegate's character becomes jealous over Will Arnett's female friend from their daughter's school. They have inside jokes, get each other's sense of humor, etc.... If my husband became chummy with another mom at school like that, I'd feel threatened too.
Though the majority of parent involvement that goes on at my son's school is amongst the moms, if there were a situation for me to "shmooze" with a dad, I have to say- I probably wouldn't. Here's why:
I've come to realize that there's this perception from some (a-hole) married folks, that I recently talked about in my Single Motherhood post, that single moms are not choosy. That we're desperate for attention of any kind. That because of our divorce, we'd consider any man who breathes in our direction as available and ripe for a relationship- right or wrong... That we'd "steal" another man.
EW. NEVER. EW.
First of all, as a divorced mom, trust me when I say I can see, I mean SEEEEEEEEE into all your relationships and identify your issues. Though I hate walking down the preschool hallways by myself, I'm happy that I'm not in your shoes or married to your man. BUT, I believe, thanks to over the top characters on shows like "Desperate Housewives," that there's this naive notion that I want to be married to him.... That I'm jealous... Trust me, my jealousy stems from a completely different place (like you have a complete set of pots and pans and thanks to a nasty division of mine/yours, I don't).
My point is, if there were a dad who did the playground and frozen yogurt after school circuit too, I probably wouldn't be chummy with him. Friendly, sure, but besties, NO. No need. No want. No way. The deck is already not stacked in my favor when it comes to being one of the only single moms in my community, why make my life harder.
Tell me, married or not married, would you friend another dad? How would you feel if your husband was hanging with another mom... making plans, etc? Weird? Fine?
Share your thoughts here!