Spa Parties For Little Girls: Building Self-Esteem or Promoting Vanity?
Recently I was sent an ad promoting Spa Parties For Little Girls. It said, today’s world is tough on young girls filled with so many images and peer pressure to fit in that we need to promote self-confidence and a positive self-image and the perfect way to do that is with pampering your girl and her friends (as young as 3) with a spa party! What?
Don’t get me wrong. I love spa parties. Who wouldn’t? Being pampered, hanging out with your friends, but for 3 year olds? How does getting your hair and nails done at that age promote a positive self image? I guess the fact that you're being taken care of and looking pretty, makes you feel good, but that really isn’t focusing on what’s inside, but rather the outside.
I know it’s all in good fun and I’m sure lots of moms are excited to throw spa parties for their kids, but all of this can’t help but make me wonder about what message are we sending to our children. Girls are getting waxed, manicured, made up earlier and earlier and there’s so much focus on looking a certain way. At 2, I already see it in my daughter, I had a sparkly nail polish on and my daughter said to me “I want sparkle”. I can see it when she looks in the mirror. I played with make up when I was little too, but I didn’t necessarily pay a lot of money on beauty maintenance and go to the spa. (That didn’t happen until my 20’s :).
I was at a dinner party this weekend with a mom of a 1st grader who said her daughter’s friend was upset that a boy didn’t like her and she was concerned about being too fat and not pretty enough. That scares me that these insecurities and types of conversations start at such a young age.
I know we’ve all been insecure as kids. I remember feeling that way when I was in grade school. I was a little chubby and always wished I had bigger eyes and a higher nose (it’s an Asian thing). That’s why I think it's so important for us to give our daughters the tools to be self-confident individuals and not just concerned about what we look like.
I struggle because I love make-up and getting dressed up and in my TV career it was and is about “looking good”. I love having a daughter and dressing her up too, but I want to take it slow and focus on what’s important.
My daughter is only a toddler, so I know I can’t judge, I may be changing my tune when she wants to have a spa party of her own, but for now I want my little girl to just be a kid and not so concerned with vanity and keeping up with everyone else.
What do you think?