Spousal GPS - Should You Know Where Your Spouse Is At All Times?
As a blogger, I get emails on a daily basis from people asking me if I'm interested in learning more about their product/service/idea/discount prescription drug program from Canada. Well, the last one probably has nothing to do with being a blogger, but oh man, I sure do get a lot of emails about prescription drugs and, ahem, ways to enlarge certain parts of your anatomy. Parts that, as a woman, I don't even have.
What was I saying?
Oh yes. The pitch emails.
So last week I received an email asking if I would like to "learn more" about an iPhone app that you can install on your spouse's phone that will text you updates as to their exact location, as well as alert you if they leave or enter specific areas.
You will know exactly where your spouse is, every second of every day, if you so desire.
My first thought? This is a digital leash. And I don't like it. Mostly because I took 3 trips to Pinkberry this week that I'd like to keep between me and the Pinkberry girl. Oh, and you, of course. Shh. Don't tell, ok?
Now, don't get me wrong. I am head over heels in love with a man that I whole-heartedly intend to honor and respect for the rest of my life, and I have absolutely nothing to hide.
But, how am I supposed to buy the occasional pair of shoes without him knowing? Surely there is nothing in marriage vows that says "thou shalt not buy shoes without explicit permission". I mean, I don't run a Starbucks purchase by him, so in my head I'm allowed to save up, oh, say...20 Starbucks purchases and turn that into a new pair of boots if I choose to do so, right?
Don't act like you haven't done it.
And what about surprises for birthdays and holidays? Then what? Do I nonchalantly toss a "oh honey, going shopping for your gift - would you mind turning off my GPS" over my shoulder as I grab my purse and walk out of the door?
I'm not so sure this app builds trust - as a matter of fact I think it may destroy it.
Before I am too harsh, I will admit that I can see the other side of the coin. This could certainly increase safety - someone would always know where you are at the push of a button, especially if you, God forbid, were carjacked, mugged, or worse. But where is this hyper-sensitive available-at-all-times and attached-to-my-cell-phone world taking us? Big brother is watching - and it all starts with your spouse.
So, on one hand, I have nothing to hide (except the occasional pair of shoes and Pinkberry runs) so feel free to GPS my butt all the way to the kids' preschool and back. On the other, is it really necessary? Would a service like this make you more or less distrustful of your spouse? Do you feel it would help or harm your relationships?
I'd really like to hear your thoughts - please share them in the comments and I'll chime in when I can too.