One Born Every Minute
Top 10 Annoying Statements Pregnant Women Hear
By Laura Sussely-Pope, Pregnancy.org
It’s bad enough that complete strangers think it’s perfectly okay to violate a pregnant woman’s personal space by touching her belly and providing all kinds of unsolicited advice.
People say the strangest, most annoying, and sometimes downright offensive things – ask any pregnant woman. It’s as if seeing a pregnant tummy makes people rewrite the laws of civilized conversation.
Here are some examples of some of the most annoying things expectant moms hear:
1. “Was this planned?”
Now, maybe it was and maybe it wasn’t, but yes stranger, allow me to tell you about my personal life. What makes the asker think that it’s their business how or why this baby was conceived? How do you answer that? My suggestion: Reply with a smile and ask: “Why do you want to know?”
2. “You look like you’re ready to pop!”
Um, what do you say to that? Thank you? This is an especially nice question if you are only 4 months pregnant. Why doesn’t the person simply cut to the chase and say they think you’re fat?
3. “You don’t want someone else to raise your child, do you?”
This one is amazing. Insult mom’s mothering before the baby is even born. And by all means, make assumptions about why her baby might go to daycare. Perhaps mom has no choice. This also shows ignorance on the part of the person asking about the benefits of daycare.
4. “You’re planning to breastfeed right?”
Once again, last time we checked, this was a personal decision. While breast is certainly best, if, how and why mom is planning to breastfeed is no one’s business but her own. And why on earth would she open herself up to a debate with a complete stranger?
5. “Are you ready to be a parent?”
This question is one which every new mom has probably been asking herself for her entire pregnancy. But I doubt she wants to pour her heart out to a stranger. Besides, whether she answers yes or no, it is sure to invite further questioning.
6. “Do you want a boy or a girl?”
Seriously, does the asker expect to hear anything other than “as long as it’s healthy, I’ll be happy.”?
7. “Get lots of sleep now because you won’t when baby gets here…”
This one qualifies as annoying simply because it is inevitably repeated over and over again by many a person to every pregnant woman on the planet.
8. “You can eat anything you want!”
Does anyone truly believe that? Not only is it seriously unhealthy advice, it, too, is one of those statements that is heard about as often as “See you next year!” on New Year’s Eve. How many times can you smile and fake chuckle?
9. “Aren’t you tired?”
Is that a rhetorical question or do you really want an answer? I’m pregnant, not sick. Sometimes I’m tired, sometimes I’m not.
10. “You sure you’re not pregnant with twins?”
This one is right up there with #2. Thank you for the compliment. Yes, I’m sure. Why don’t you just ask me how much weight I’ve gained and be done with it? Yes, that should be #11, shouldn’t it?
What’s the most annoying thing you’ve heard?