Tough Parenting Decisions
When I was pregnant with my first child, plenty of friends were considerate enough to tell me the truth about the days ahead. Yes, there would be life-changing moments such as my daughter's first intentional smile, first word, first steps, but there would also be sleepless nights, colic, potty-training.
What no one told me was that my babies would become children, and my life would become one tough decision after another.
As parents we tend to focus on the early decisions of parenthood. My husband and I spent countless hours choosing the right crib and car seat, opting for disposable diapers over cloth, and breast milk over formula. Most parenting decisions, however, are made in an instant with no time to analyze charts or consult parenting guides. Those split-second decisions can change the course of a child's life.
My daughter is about to finish her first year in elementary school, and every decision from what to wear on the first day of school to whether or not to allow her to buy lunch felt like a monumental task. We went with a leopard and pink dress and packed her lunch most days, but I'm fairly sure she would have learned to read and count change even if we had chosen otherwise. The most upsetting decision of the year turned out to revolve not around school, but an after-school activity. After choosing to allow her to participate during this school year, we had to make the decision to not allow her to continue next year. Fellow parents, the group leader, and even my child all stood to be hurt by this choice, but in the end I felt strongly that it was best for my child.
No one tells you about the years of difficult parenting dilemmas and worse, that there's no right or wrong answer much of the time. The bottom line is to remember this. Your children are yours, and it is up to you to choose what you believe is best for them....no matter how tough the decision.