In The News
Uproar Over Wearing a Humiliating Sign. Really? It’s A Mother’s Job To Save Her Kids
I really can’t believe the national uproar over an Indiana mom who forced her 14-year-old son to wear a humiliating sign in a desperate attempt to get him to change his ways. When it comes to saving our kids from a life of crime, jail and most likely death, a mom’s gotta do what a mom’s gotta do.
The mother, Dyesha Lax, broke no laws when punishing her son to wear a sign that said, “ I lie. I steal. I sell drugs. I don’t follow the law.” And she punished him on her own property.
And trust me, if this kids bad behavior eventually escalated to something more serious, and God forbid something tragic, they would be criticizing the mother for not doing more to correct him earlier on. You can’t win.
We can’t hypocritically insist that parents do more to monitor their kids and keep them off the street, then turn around and criticize them for trying unorthodox, but not illegal or harmful, methods. Wake up people, orthodox measures don’t work with some teens.
Nor was this her first stab at helping her son, who has been getting in minor trouble with the law. “I’ve done therapy with my son. I’ve done positive reinforcement. I’ve done negative reinforcement. I’ve done mommy-and-me days. I’ve even called the police on him,” Lax said, in an ABCNews interview. “But everything seems to be taken lightly. Nobody is taking seriously that these are serious offenses.”
She said he has been acting up since a young age and that while none of her responses have worked, she refused to give up. “He’s already lying, stealing, trying to sell drugs. We’ve got three-and-a-half years until I don’t have control anymore,” Lax said. “I’m not going to let the streets have my son.”
I applaud that. Lax has another son with a 3.9 GPA.
These days, with educators, law enforcement officials and politicians calling for parents to do more to keep their children as law-abiding citizens, I find it really odd that this woman is being criticized for trying something—trying anything—to save her son.
That’s a mother’s job.
Over the weekend, the mayor of Philadelphia lashed out after three 14-year-olds in his city were killed and scolded the dead boys' parents for not adequately supervising their children, saying that "their little butts" should have been in bed when the incident occurred.
“The least you can do is know where the hell your kids are, in the daytime, in the nighttime, or at any time during the week or on the weekends. That’s the minimum we should ask and expect from our parents. You want to have kids? Take care of them,” mayor Michael Nutter is quoted as saying.
That’s exactly what Lax is trying to do. And the fatal outcome of those 14-year-olds is exactly what she is trying to avoid.
And until any one of has experienced the fear and pain of watching our child go down a path that we know only leads to an early death or incarceration, not one of us can judge this mother and say what we would do to try save our kid. But I certainly hope that all of us would be willing to try whatever means are necessary.
I know I would. And I would give not give a damn what anyone thought.