What Language Does Your Child Speak?
According to a book I read years ago - "Five Love Languages," by Gary Chapman - there are five ways in which each of us express and receive love:
- Quality Time
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
Each are pretty self-explanatory and I’m sure you could recognize which most speaks to you just by glancing at the list, but what about your children? Which one would best describe each of their love languages?
We naturally pour on all five languages when our children are young. We must spend time with them, serve them, and hug and cuddle, so as to sustain their life. We shower them with praises as they smile for the first time, burp after a feeding, and later as they begin to crawl and then walk.
As our children mature and develop personalities, however, their language of love can be a bit harder to identify. Here are a few ways to best determine which one each of our children most appreciates:
- Observe their reaction to the different ways in which you express your love for them
- Observe how they show their love to others
- Listen to their requests
- Give them options
It’s important to remember that if you express love in a way that is not understood, your child or spouse may not realize you’ve expressed your love at all. Chapman stresses the importance of understanding your loved ones’ language in order to keep their love tanks full.
I would love to hear which language you speak. What about your spouse and children?