What Means Mom
By Laura Sussely-Pope, Pregnancy.org
What does it mean to be a mom? It’s not a very easy question to answer. Technically, giving birth or adopting a child, I suppose. But we all know it is something much deeper than that. Everyone knows plenty of “mothers” who are not exactly “moms,” and plenty of women who should be moms but for whatever reason can’t be.
Merriam Webster defines motherhood as "a female parent ... (having) maternal tenderness or affection." That makes sense.
First and foremost, we think a mom should love her children unconditionally, no matter what. Your child is the only person on the planet who you would love no matter what they did. Think about that. You can’t love your spouse like that. There are things they could do that would make you turn away from them, but not your child.
A mom is willing to sacrifice her desires, her needs, and her very life for her children. Who else would you throw yourself in front of a train for?
Your child may disappoint you, may behave less than perfectly, but a true mother’s love is not dependent on their behavior.
A mom disciplines her child – with reasonableness, calmness and kindness. A true mom knows that discipline means to disciple, to teach – not punish. And she does this because she wants her child to be of good character and to grow into a healthy, happy adult. She is, after all, raising an adult.
A good question to ask is, "If I was no longer here when my child turned 18, what would he or she remember about me? "How would they fill in the blank, “My mom influenced me most in this way:____” You would hope they would mention something positive about love, protection, character, respect.
A lot is put on our shoulders. In my case, I had to raise my first child alone and my second, 15 years later, was born with special needs. Many might say wow that was a lot to handle. But the fact is, many moms deal with more but regardless, we all step up to the plate. Moms handle whatever responsibility is handed to them and they do it with love and grace. That is, *real* moms.
So what does it mean to you to be a mom? When did you first have that “aha” moment that made you stop and think, “Wow, I really am a mom now!”