Why Arnold Makes Me Think of Forgiveness
As the news continues to endlessly focus on the saga of Arnold Schwarzenegger's affair and "love child" (really? Is it 1968?), women everywhere are pumping their fists into the air in support of Maria Shriver calling for her to take him for all he's worth. Guest experts on major news channels are discussing not the political fall-out of the situation, but rather the plight of the downtrodden woman. Depending which news channel you watch, some commentators are taking it one step further and suggesting a medical intervention for Arnold and his cheating ways!
And yet in all of this sensationalized personal drama, all I can think about is forgiveness.
Whenever my conversations with girlfriends turn to cheating husbands and how we would react if it happened to us, I'm always the odd one out who, instead of ranting about sleeping on couches and filing for divorce the next day, talks about forgiveness. In fact, I joke that my husband has a golden ticket, a free pass to fall from grace. This, of course, oversimplifies my feelings and doesn't take into consideration the details of the hypothetical situation (refer back to previous love child mention), but when I stood at the altar and spoke the words for better or for worse, I did not list exceptions. Of course I can imagine that something could happen in our marriage that would cause it to end, but I believe it would take more than cheating.
For me, this is not about taking sides. I get no pleasure from joining Team Maria and waving my flag of solidarity. But I also derive no pleasure from attacking the male species with Arnold as their fearless leader.
My husband is a phenomenal man. He is a supportive husband, putting the kids and his crazy blogging wife ahead of himself at all times. He is also an amazing father, the type of dad that other moms point out on the playground for his attention to and care of his children. Together we have built a happy life. Together we are working on an incredible future. I cannot and would not walk away from that. So when my husband and I watch the never-ending news cycle of Arnold and Maria's marital issues, we hold hands and vow not to go after 50% of everything in our divorce, but instead to support each other, pray that our lives continue to be blessed, and should one of us ever fall from grace, forgive.
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