Why I Don’t Want Teen Celebrities to be my Daughter’s Role Models
Teens and teen celebrities are part of what I like to call the “Star of the Month Club” because their status changes just as fast as the months roll by. As soon as a new one comes out, the others are yesterday’s news. Recycling mediocre talent at its finest.
Look at Miley Cyrus for example; she had her day in the sun until she turned 18 and became too inappropriate for many of her young fans. She’s become very close to being banned in my house as the only Miley Cyrus or Hannah Montana items that Bebe owns are ones that other people have bought for her. I refuse to buy them and my daughter knows it. Thankfully, she’s never spent any of her own money on Miley/Hannah items either.
Selena Gomez is denying that she has anorexia and claiming instead to be extremely malnourished while her BFF and another Disney teen star Demi Lovato has been reported as having anorexia after checking into an eating disorder clinic last year. It sounds to me like Selena is in denial and has been eating (or not) from the same plate as Demi. Regardless, these aren’t role models for any young girl.
I feel like it’s a little too late to be noticing that teen stars are becoming our daughters’ role models, especially since there are so few out there worthy of the title. Whether it’s out of control partying, substance abuse, eating disorders or teen pregnancy these aren’t the types of girls that I want to influence my daughter.
You may argue “But these girls are trying to turn their lives around.” I can’t argue that but I can argue that if they don’t turn their lives around the networks they work for and who have contracts hanging over their heads stand to lose money on them… they stand to lose money on themselves so excuse me if I don’t buy into the argument that these teen stars are making a change for the better because they want to; they’re doing it because if they don’t, they lose fans and franchises that have been built around them; basically money and the people who control them. I honestly hope they get themselves together for their own sakes.
And that’s another thing, let’s pretend for a moment that your young daughter does emulate these teen stars so much that they too start traveling down the same path of self-destruction, is Demi, Selena or Miley going to show up and hold her hand till she gets through it? Drive her to meetings, rehab, and counseling? Are they going to pay for it? Not a chance. Who will? YOU. And family and hopefully her real life friends. No one from the networks are going to show up and help your daughter out, or be her talking down point when temptation strikes, no press release will be written to smooth over the damage and rumors that are being said about her. She’ll be on her own.
I’ve told Bebe it’s fine to like these teen celebrities for the roles they play on television but it’s not healthy to want to become them or look to them when deciding who she wants to be. We’ve talked about the lifestyles these teen stars lead and just how much control over their own lives they actually have. We’ve also discussed the behavior of some of the teen stars that are making headlines and what she thinks of their actions. I’ve also reminded her that there are many other people in the world who would make far better role models and who aren’t celebrities or stars and yet, they are doing amazing things in the world.
Most importantly, we’ve talked about who would be better role models for her, both famous and not famous and what makes a person worthy enough to be her role model. The good news is that we couldn’t come up with any famous people she wants to be like, the even better news is that she wants to be like me, her aunt, and even some of my friends that she has in her life. Above all I have encouraged her to be true to herself by being herself. Emulate her own greatness and become her own star.
There’s nothing wrong with shining brightly and being a star, just so long as you’re doing it for yourself and no one else.
What do you think about teen celebrities as role models for girls? Are there any out there that you’re okay or not okay with?
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