Forming The Unbreakable Mother-Daughter Bonds With My Own Daughter
When I first received an advanced copy of the re-make of “Steel Magnolias” that will be premiering on Lifetime Television October 7, I was giddy with excitement. You see, the original film was one of my personal favorites. I loved everything about that movie – especially the mother daughter relationship between M’Lynn and Shelby. While I saw the original film way before I was married and had children, I can now totally relate to the incredible bond the two shared between them.
While I can count the number of arguments I had with my own mom (that would be one), my daughter and I are constantly at odds with one another. The reason is simple – my daughter, like Shelby, is headstrong and independent. Even when I offer practical advice to her, she just doesn’t listen. She has to make her own mistakes and sadly, even when I know she’s making the wrong decision, I have to sit back on the sidelines and watch her stumble.
Much like M’Lynn, I am the ultimate taskmaster in my family. If something needs to get done, then all my family has to do is hand it off to me and I will make sure it’s crossed off our to-do list. No matter the situation, M’Lynn was the one making sure her family was cared for – during joyous occasions and during the incredibly sad times too. I’ve been in those situations before as well – although I have not held up as well during the tough times.
When it comes to gifted, she's an artist and I have been blown away by my daughter’s natural gift for drawing and design. I am so proud of my daughter and honestly, wouldn’t know what to do if something happened to her.
While we’ve never experienced what M’Lynn does in the film , we have had a few scares with our daughter – over the years, she’s suffered from bad stomach issues with one that was so painful she wound up in a hospital emergency room. During that experience, I vividly remember when a technician began reading a sonogram of her stomach and I was led to believe my daughter had tumors. In that split second, I thought my world was going to come crashing down. I couldn’t imagine my life without her in it. I was shaking and walked out of the room to call my mom and when she came on the line, I broke down in tears.
After several minutes passed, I went back into the exam room and discovered that everything was fine. There was actually nothing to worry about in the scans – just a blockage that required the use of an enema. After I was finally able to breathe again, from that moment on, I vowed to cherish every moment I have with my kids – even when they are driving me nuts.
Now that she’s 13, I’m going to have her watch “Steel Magnolias” with me so that we can laugh, smile and cry together – just like I did with my own mom when I saw it for the first time. There is nothing that quite compares to curling up on the couch and watching a classic tearjerker with your daughter. Well, shopping comes close, but for now, I’m looking forward to some mother/daughter bonding movie bonding time.