Gender Selection: How Ethical Is It?
I read something recently that really got me thinking. The Huffington Post featured a story of a mother of two boys, Megan Simpson (not her real name) from Canada who desperately wanted a baby girl. So much so that she came into the US (since gender selection procedures are illegal in Canada) and paid to go through the process of having her embryos separated into those that could potentially be female from others that could potentially be male (based on the whole Y vs. X chromosome theory).
She ended up with a boy.
Poor Megan. How awful! A boy! Of course, she and her husband considered aborting the baby. Why not? If not a girl, what’s the point?
But they didn’t. They decided instead to give life to this unwanted gender anyway – how they treat him and his brothers today, we don’t know.
But this middle class, white, college educated nurse and her husband decided that they would take out loans – and would spend $40,000 in 4 years - to continue with procedures that would eventually lead to her having her beloved little girl. A little girl that she says, “was worth every cent. Better than a new car, or a kitchen reno.”
How sweet. I always like to look at my kids and compare their worth to that of the cost of my car.
In the US, gender selection procedures are not only legal, they are mainly unregulated. Megan Smith is but one among a growing number of mothers who wish they could have a specific gender and will pay dearly for it.
Because despite the fact that UNICEF estimated that there are between 143 million and 210 million orphans worldwide, none of these pathetic women would ever consider adopting a child. Ever.
These real world problems so often found in the ever-increasing culture of the entitled and selfish do nothing to address, or try to some how contribute to the solution of a problem that has long existed and, in great part due to their self-centeredness, continues to grow each year: the abandonment and homelessness of children worldwide.
While Megan cried and cried in her bewildered desperation over not having gotten pregnant with a daughter, she and her husband could have easily adopted one.
And though I am a supporter of a woman’s right to choose, I am horrified at the thought that women out there are intentionally getting pregnant and than choosing to abort their babies, or even considering it, if they don’t turn out to be the gender of their choice.
How sad and how terrifying the direction we are choosing for ourselves. That the healthcare institutions have chosen to capitalize on these insane demands is not as surprising to me as the lack of our government’s unwillingness to put restrictions on these reckless practices.
I hope Megan Smith’s dream to have a little puppet to dress in pink and play dolls with plays out in real life as idyllic as she created it to be in her mind. My heart hurts for the three boys she didn’t really want, but had anyway.
Hopefully, there are more parents out there who, upon wanting a son or a daughter, would consider adoption over wasting thousands upon thousands of dollars on something that serves no other purpose than to satisfy their own ego. Or maybe they will just be happy with what they got, especially if what they got was a healthy, happy, baby.
There are so many more children, alive and well, ofge both genders that would love a home. I hope that more people wanting children would consider them an option.