The Importance of Celebrating Dad
As a little girl, I remember the fear I had of my father. He provided me with the things that I needed to eat, sleep, and stay dry and warm. My father always used to say to me that the way he shows me that he loves me is by giving me the things he was supposed to.
My father gave me what he was taught a man should give his children, what he failed to give me was what no one really expects men, as fathers, to naturally be able to give their children: nurturing love and care.
We often celebrate mothers for having this innate ability to love and nurture their children. We tend to argue that our experience in carrying our children for 9 months and our basic female instincts enable us to love our children in a way nature intended. Yet, we make excuses for men and set standards low, assuming that because they are men, or didn’t give birth, they are somehow less capable of loving as much as we do our children.
However, as Father’s Day approaches, I encourage moms to not let the day go by quietly and certainly not without as much fanfare as the day reserved for us. It is true that it is hard to find men who can give their children and family more than what my own father gave me, but more and more fathers have figured out how – and have proven to us that loving, nurturing, and caring for their children is very much instinctive for them as it is for us, albeit proven so differently.
My husband is an great example of this: loving his children, biological or not, equally and intensely, caring for them in a way that make me love him more and more each day.
My boys run to their daddy when they need a bug killed just as easily and quickly as they would when they need a boo-boo kissed.
My boys adore their daddy and trust him to be there for them. It’s true that as parents, and as nurturers we function differently, but that is not to say either one of our ways is best, nor deserves the most attention.
I encourage mothers to not let the good men, the good fathers in their lives go unnoticed, uncelebrated – whether it be this Father’s Day or another other day that follows.
Let’s celebrate the good fathers in our lives and let’s set an example for our children how much we appreciate and adore them. It sends the message of love to these great men, but also reinforces the message and images of good men for our sons and daughters.
Happy Father’s Day to my beloved husband, wonderful father to our beautiful children and to all the many other great fathers out there.
We appreciate you, love you, and celebrate you!