Mommy Business Cards: Necessary?
The scene: A group of well-heeled women in their thirties gather at a boutique shopping event. A stylish blonde whips out her business card to share with new acquaintances. Her job title? Ledger’s Mommy. “It’s my mom card,” she explains.
I caught this exchange on the premiere episode of Lifetime’s “Pretty Wicked Moms”, and it stuck with me, probably because I couldn’t decide if a “mommy card” was genius or totally degrading.
On the one hand, if you’re a stay-at-home mom who wants to exchange information for setting up play dates, a mom card is practical and kind of cute. (Miranda’s yellow patterned card would have made an amazing pillow.) It’s hard enough learning the names of every kid in the preschool class—a mom card connects the child to the parent in a memorable way.
Plus, there’s precedent, sort of. In the days before telephones (picture a movie like "The Age of Innocence"), people left behind calling cards when they came to visit – just a name and address, no business required.
However, in modern times, we associate cards with professional roles. Being a mom may be hard work, but is it really a job title? I’m not so sure about that. Let’s evaluate:
Jobs have hours, like 9 to 5. A mom is always on the clock.
Jobs have bosses and underlings. A mom’s underling is her boss.
Jobs have 401K’s. Moms say “Are you okay?” a lot.
Jobs provide offices or cubicles. Motherhood provides no privacy, even in the bathroom.
Jobs pay salaries. I think we all know where this is going.
No, I don’t think being a mom is exactly a job. Clearly “Pretty Wicked Moms’” Marci didn’t think so either – upon receiving Miranda’s mom card, she asked if Ledger’s Mommy cleaned houses. That didn’t go over so well.
Like Miranda, I’d say motherhood is priority one for me right now. But it’s still not the only part of my identity. I’m a wife-to-be, a blogger, a traveler, a friend, a decent pasta maker and a lazy exerciser. I am more things than can be summed up by the title “Mommy.”
And when it comes down to it, I don’t want my daughter thinking she’s some kind of assignment. She’s my family, not my job. So I’ve decided -- no mom card for me.
What did you think of Miranda’s mom card? Would you ever carry one?
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