My House, My Rules
I have completely turned into the "Take Away Mom."
I take away TV. I take away toys. I take away video games. I take away iPads. I take away phones. I take away dessert. I take away books. I even take away attention.
In general, when my discipline guns come out and my rules are compromised or crossed, I will take away privileges.
Or at least, I TRY to take away privileges.
Except when I'm sleep deprived. And it's Saturday morning. At 6am. And my 4 year old has misbehaved the night before. And I've told him, if he "doesn't X, Y, or Z..." I'm "taking away the X, Y, and Z." But, at 6am, the idea of sticking to my word and dealing with the wrath of a 4 year old not getting his way sounds torturous. So I give up and give in. Take the iPad. Take the phone. Take the video games. Watch whatever you want. I DON'T CARE. I'M TIRED. Taking away anything is not happening and will only lead to taking away any shred of sanity I have left.
TAKE IT ALL.
Once 8am rolls around though, it's back to rules and regulations. Well, wait. That's not entirely true…
So... what happens when we do the "take away dance," then we don't sleep, THEN we go to a friend's house for a play date, where the object of his desire, which he's not supposed to be playing with, is now completely accessible? Am I supposed to uphold the law? Am I supposed to turn a cheek? Am I supposed to let him "have at it?"
In my opinion, in someone else's house, it's their rules. Obviosuly, if something unsafe or inappropriate is going on, I will always interject (politely), but if their child is playing a ninja warriors video and I've just said no to a ninja warriors game at home (though that's not even something we play at home), I absolutely would NOT stop my child from joining in and playing. I just think that's rude. And the same would go at my house. My house, my rules.
Do you agree? Does the same thing apply to food? Say, for example, if I said "no candy" as a punishment one night or morning, and then later that day I took him to a birthday party and it was candy galore, should the no candy rule apply there too? In my opinion, that's torture and a recipe for a meltdown. It's just plain unfair.
Of course, as I type this, I realize therein may lie the problem: I uphold NOTHING. There's always a reason to "let it go." But honestly, it just seems like the "When in Rome" mentality is not only the easiest parenting method to follow but the most polite one. I certainly would not appreciate a mother coming to my house and asking me to not do something, or asking my child to not something that they're entirely allowed to do and even enjoy. Is that wrong? Again: My house, my rules!
What do you think? Are you an enforcer always or do you change (like me) depending on how the wind blows -- and how much or little coffee you've had???
Share your thoughts!