My Son Thinks I’m a Bad Mom Because I Work
My kids are pretty accustomed to me working full-time – we have a wonderful nanny who has been with us for seven years, and while many of the moms at my son’s school don’t work, there are a handful that do. But on occasion (as expected), he’ll question why I can’t stay at home. And quite honestly, I don’t know what to say.
I don’t think it is appropriate to tell him that most of his friends have more money than we do, therefore the moms can afford to stay home. And if I tell him I work by choice, he’ll read that as “mom's work is more important than spending time with him and his sister”. So I do what I do best – I ignore the situation and hope it fixes itself. Awesome.
But here’s how sh*t went down yesterday:
Him: (sigh) “Michael’s” mom is the best. She doesn’t go to work every day AND they have two dogs. (He’s on a dog kick and I simply can’t oblige – I’m already teetering on the edge of a nervous breakdown with what I DO have on my plate – a dog will push me over that edge).
Me: That’s nice. Well – I’m taking Halloween off to go to your school parade.
Him: I KNOW THAT
Me: Buddy – you are at school all day so you wouldn’t see me anyway.
Him: But I want you to pick me up from school with all the other moms and then we can hang out at the playground together.
Me: I love you.
Him: Can we get a dog?
And with that, I carried on with our normal three-ring-circus of a morning while fighting back the tears and wishing I knew what to say.
I know that there’s a lesson to be taught here about self-fulfillment etc., but I’m having trouble wrapping my head around it.