Parenting Tips from A&E's "Modern Dads"
Parenting isn't what it used to be. This week, A&E kicks off their new reality series "Modern Dads", following a group of four long-time guy friends as they navigate the world of parenting on the front lines! Each of the dads is the primary caregiver in the family, but don't let that fool you, they haven't lost any of their "guy-ness" in the process.
So, what can we learn from these Stay at Home Dads? We asked a couple of them to tackle two issues moms know all too well! Here are their top 5 tips.
Q: How do you handle a public temper tantrum?
Rick Lucas (the experienced dad)
- Never give in. This is an act of hostile aggression and it cannot stand! Do not let them win!
- Ignore them, even if other parents look at you like you are crazy.
- If you choose 2, find a strategic place to hide. Good sight lines are important for close observation and you get the joy of seeing the do-gooder adult-stranger try to deal with your little Tasmanian devil.
- If you are in the car, put on YOUR favorite song and crank it up. If everyone else is miserable, there is no reason why you shouldn't be happy for a few minutes.
- If you are in a restaurant, take them to the car and go to step 4. Those people didn't come to the restaurant to see you parent, no matter how cute you think your kid is.
Nathan Hall (the new dad)
- Remain calm :)
- Explain to your child that s/he can't always have his/her way. When parents give into their child during a tantrum, it simply reinforces the bad behavior. Children have temper tantrums because that's the way they know how to express themselves.
- Try to redirect your child's attention to something else. It doesn't always work, but it might buy you some time.
- Have a temper tantrum with your child. Okay, don't do that.
- Abort! Remove the child from the situation.
Q: In one episode of the show the dads plan a first birthday party for the twin girls, what are your top 5 tips for planning a fun and successful party?
- Choose neutral places like parks. The party places are a beating and you don't want to deal with the hassle of cleaning up your house.
- Invite only close friends. This helps you avoid the awkwardness of having to interact with a parent you don't know. There's only so much weather talk to go around.
- Don't try to outdo another parent's party, unless that is your thing. You will always come up short when you measure your success with someone else's measuring stick.
- Don't open the presents at the party because it just reminds the other kids of what they don't have. Plus, kids fight over toys and the idea is to keep things moderately stress free for everyone.
- Always incorporate at least one gross element. In the past, we have had spider cakes and sharks that bleed---food coloring of course. Nothing like seeing a little girl get the gross shivers.
Since Cormac's only 1, we've only thrown 1 party for him. We invited close friends and family (people he knows and trusts). The party was dinosaur-themed because Cormac really loves dinosaurs.
Here are a few more birthday tips:
- Take a lot of photos! Birthdays are special, so encourage friends and family to take pics as well. Obviously, I tend to take a lot of photos. :)
- I'm sure there will be plenty of kids at the party, so be sure to get them involved in the festivities by having fun games for all to play.
- Schedule the party well before or after naps (if your child still takes naps). You don't want the birthday boy or girl to be cranky on his/her special day.
- If your child is young, keep the decorations simple. You don't want to overwhelm the birthday boy/girl. Also, you want to make sure that none of the decorations are potential choking hazards.
- HAVE FUN! Simple, right? Well, some parents get caught up with trying to have the "perfect" party and over plan. The party will be a success if your child has fun.
Check out Rick and Nathan this Wednesday, August 21 | 10:30/9:30C for the premiere of "Modern Dads" on A&E!
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