The Family Bed will Never be for Me
Some people really love a family bed. Like Tori Spelling. Who apparently sleeps with her kids and her dog and her chicken.
My kindergartner just brought home baby ducks from her classroom for one night. Despite them being fluffy and cute, I wasn't jazzed about co-sleeping with them in the same house, never mind inviting one into my bed. Because they poop every 4 seconds. And they are DUCKS. People eat ducks. As a rule, you shouldn't share a bed with things people eat.
But animals aside, the family bed is still not for me. Because children move around a ton in their sleep, take up too much room and it's hard to get beauty rest with a 6-year-old's foot in my face. It gets me very agitated.
I can barely put up with my husband in the same bed. I love that man but he snores. Or he's turning over. Or he's headed to the bathroom. In fact, it seems the only time he is sleeping incredibly soundly is when one of our kids is calling out to us from their bedroom. (I need to look into that coincidence) I think Mary Tyler Moore and Dick Van Dyke may have had it right on the Dick Van Dyke show - they loved each other and slept happily in separate beds. Is it too late to have a fictional marriage in the 1960's?!
Even though I'm not a co-sleeping kind of girl, I don't buy the argument that it kills your sex life. What's killing married people's sex life is having kids in the first place. Whether you are a family bed proponent or not, once you have children, you have to work at finding alone time with your spouse. (A lock on the bedroom door really helps too.)
So back to the children... How do I keep my kids from crawling into bed with me? I am a drill sergeant and I quickly march them back to their own beds. If they are sick or had a nightmare, I'm far more inclined to climb into bed with them for a few minutes. Because I can easily get out of their bed once they fall back to sleep. Extracting a child from my own bed can be incredibly difficult. They suddenly become very heavy and impossible to budge.
My children are welcome to hop into bed with us at 7 AM for some morning hugs. Although with four kids and a queen size bed, sibling squabbles break out by about 7:03 AM. But those first 3 minutes are very nice.
Once my children are grown and out of the house, will I feel like I missed out on the opportunity to share a bed with them? I don't think so. And I'll still have that guy snoring next to me.
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