Why I Chose International Adoption
I will never forget the day. Peyton was 18 months old and we were at our first story time at the local public library. We sang songs, read stories and did some interactive games. As we were wrapping up they had a free playtime with some toys and scarves. As I was watching Peyton play I heard a Mom say, "I just don't understand why someone would adopt from another country when there are children here in the US that need homes".
SPEECHLESS. Now, don't get me wrong, no one in the room knew for CERTAIN that Peyton was born in Guatemala, but one might "guess" that he was born in another country. Several of the Mom's in the room locked eyes with me and the librarian looked as though she wanted to hug me with her eyes. Several said they agreed with her. My eyes started to well up but I didn't shed a tear. I remained strong for Peyton. We did nothing wrong by adopting internationally.
She continued, "I just don't understand why anyone would go to another country. I mean if someone wants a kid that bad they should just get one here in the US". Then the librarian said "clean up" and everyone started singing the clean up song, and just like that the class was over and everyone was gone. I will never forget that moment.
I have never encountered another moment like that or have been asked why I chose International adoption. I didn't adopt domestically because I wasn't interested in an open adoption. We attended one adoption fair and we quickly ruled out domestic adoption. It just wasn't for us. I suggest that you research your state laws on domestic adoption before you decide as they vary by state. The second piece of advise is thoroughly research your adoption agency/attorney before you sign or pay anything.
International adoption also varies by country. Each country has their own regulations and policies and they are ever changing. Countries can open and close at the drop of a hat and the stability of the country should be factored into your decision. You also need to compare costs and be certain of any hidden fees or travel expenses that you will be asked to pay.
Regardless of your decision, I am an advocate for adoption - Domestic or International that is a personal choice. Why did I choose International Adoption? Because that is where my son was.