Why I'm Not Keeping My Son's Adoption Journey a Secret
I never considered not telling Peyton he was born in Guatemala. I never feared the truth. Why did I tell him? I guess for me the reality was that he didn't "look" like me. He is Mayan with dark hair and eyes and I am light skinned with blue eyes and brown hair. How could I pretend that I gave birth to him, even though I often forget that I didn't. The reality is that there are no secrets in our family. I was raised that you always tell the truth regardless of what it is. We don't keep secrets and I couldn't imagine starting now.
From the time that we brought Peyton home we have never referred to him as "being adopted". According to Wikipedia, Adoption is a legal process whereby a person assumes the parenting for another and, in so doing, permanently transfers all rights and responsibilities from the biological parent or parents. So after our legal process was complete we have been adamant that Peyton would not be called "our adopted" son. I am very clear every single year when Peyton starts with a new teacher that I don't EVER expect for him to be referred to as "adopted". Why? Because he is MY SON. He is not "adopted". Yes, we did complete a legal process in order for him to be our son but we never want him to feel bad or different for that process.
In fact, it's the exact the opposite! We talk openly and freely about our process and our trips to Guatemala. We discuss his birth Mother and his Foster Mother and share pictures and videos with him of them. In fact he loves to talk about Guatemala. We also celebrate his "family day" the day he came home from Guatemala. Now called "Peyton's Day", it is a day that we celebrate together as a family. I can honestly say that it is more important than any other holiday in our house. We spend the entire day together as a family and we celebrate Peyton all day long. He looks forward to it every year.
Why did I chose to tell Peyton about this process? Because my heart told me to. I don't fear that one day he will find out, because he knows. He knows that he was born in Guatemala and that I am his Mom and that I love him with all of my heart.