Do’s and Don’t For Hostess Gifts
Selecting a hostess gift can be tricky, but there are a few simple rules you can follow to help you make the right decision. I have hosted many parties over the years, and have loved most of the thoughtful gifts that guests have given me. However, two stand out as the best and the worst and serve up a great example of what to do and what not to do.
The best hostess gift I ever received was from a friend named Karen. I had invited her to my home for a party on a Saturday night and the day before she sent me a beautiful floral arrangement. It felt great to know that Karen had appreciated the invitation and was looking forward to the party. It put a smile on my face while I was cleaning the house and preparing the food. I was also able to use the flowers at my party- a big bonus! In contrast, the worst hostess gift I ever received was a sleeve of golf balls. I don’t play golf and I am pretty sure the guest that gifted me these found them in the trunk of his car before he came into my home. It would have been better to say “thank you for having me" and come in empty handed. It happened years ago and I still remember it today.
Follow these simple rules when you choose a Hostess gift:
- The most important thing you can do as a guest to show your gratitude is to be fully present and take time to enjoy and appreciate the gifts your host has bestowed on you. Make note of her/his special touches and send a personal note of thanks after the party.
- Send flowers the day before the party. In the midst of preparations for hosting a party, it’s a treat to receive a beautiful arrangement that says, “We’re excited and grateful to be with you tomorrow.”
- You can also call ahead to say thank you in advance and that you’ll bring dessert for the kids. Better yet, have dessert sent directly to the host so they can plate it in advance of guests’ arrival—one less thing to deal with that day.
- A thoughtful token of appreciation like a scented candle, book or wine makes a wonderful gift.
- Although sometimes the temptation is great, don’t re-gift.
- Don’t bring food for the party that you don’t clear with the hostess in advance. She/He may feel obliged to serve it, even though it might not complement the planned menu.
- Don’t give a gift that the hostess can’t enjoy. For example, if your host is allergic to nuts don’t bring a dessert made with them.