Beat the Back to School Blues! (5 Tips For You!)
The new school year can bring on an old school meltdown for parents and cause the back to school blues. Pencils… paper…please… you need a hanky. Yes, economic meltdowns can occur when getting your child all stocked up or paying the bill for that private school. But even bigger can be the nuclear meltdowns that we parents can experience when faced with separating with our little one and sending them to school. And yes our little one can even be going to college. The same feeling you had when sending baby to kindergarten has resurfaced when it’s time to send junior to college.
There are pros and cons to sending your child off. Pro: Your child is going to school. They have discovered some independence. They will be learning and thriving with other young people. Con: Your child is going to school. While we are busy preparing our children we sometimes forget to prepare ourselves. Back to school anxiety and stress can hit parents as it does children. Excited, nervous and scared sometimes describes mom versus the child.
Here are a few tips that will teach you how to beat the back to school blues:
Sulk, pout, cry…you are allowed. But only for a short time then it’s off to the time out chair. It is important to allow yourself to feel emotions -- especially something as important as this. But don’t allow yourself to stay in this place. Move on to what you can do about it.
Talk or write about it. Moms are sometimes accused of sharing too much. But talking and writing are actually wonderful coping mechanisms that will allow you to push past difficult moments. Tell me how you feel in the comments section below or at www.ladiesliveandlearn.com.
Get involved. You can ease the separation pains by getting involved in your child’s learning or new experience. Volunteer to chaperone field trips or to assist the teacher (occasionally). For older children, plan a trip for parents weekend at your child’s college.
Plan something fun for the family. Plan a special outing for you and your child that you can look forward to before school starts. For younger and older kids this can be an annual ritual that you all look forward to. It gives both you and them something to look forward that signals the beginning of the school year.
Plan something fun for you. You deserve it. A great way to break out of the blues is to make plans with a friend or family member a few hours after you drop your child off. Don’t give yourself a reason to stay down in the dumps. Experience your new found freedom with a friend at a leisurely lunch or a day of shopping…for you.
This brings me back to those pros and cons of sending your child to school. Pro: Your child is going to school! Con: The end of the school year will come around and you will be wishing it was starting again!!