The Mother of All Lists! My Secret Mother’s Day Wish List
We’ve got lists for everything these days. If Moms need to wash it, cook it, clean it, you name it, what we need to get done is usually on our list. But what about what we want? As I was going through the calendar and writing out the list of gifts I needed to buy between birthdays and baby showers this spring, I realized that Mother’s Day is coming up.
My first Mother's Day. I wrote it down. And I found the corners of my mouth starting to rise. A little grin came over me when I found myself writing my secret Mother’s Day Wish List.
Until now I had always been on the giving end of Mother’s Day. Honoring all of the great Moms in my life with a token of affection. No matter how small or big, they all seemed to comment that it was the thought that counted. Up until now, I always mused that if we were going to be thinking anyway why not think big? That wishful thinking got my list going fast. I started to run out of paper from all of the carats, cars and clothes I was writing down.
Then a surprising but healthy dose of reality kicked in. I found myself crossing things off the list. It’s not that I didn’t really need that 5 carat princess cut diamond ring set in platinum on the third ring shelf to the right in the blue case in my favorite jewelry store. It’s more that I didn’t really want it. Did I just think that? Has life in the mommyhood got me thinking that diamonds and poopy diapers don’t mix?
What’s gotten in to me? Quite frankly, my daughter has. Before, I was caught up in the buying or making something of it all. Now I realize that buying more time with my daughter and making things easier for us to truly enjoy each other was what I want most. So I’d better finish writing this now, for on Mother's Day I will insist on no lists. The laundry, dishes and vacuuming will have to wait. I would prefer to see a baby that has been bathed, burped and boo boo free that simply can spend time with me. I want the time to munch over a leisurely brunch. No rushing to eat so that I can defeat my duties.
One of the healthiest things that Moms can do for themselves and their family is to simply spend time with one another. So, I’ve finished it. The mother of all lists is complete. My secret Mother’s Day Wish List has what I really want on it. Time with my family. And if we happen to be out just enjoying one another… there is a store with a blue case calling my name.