Is your confidence tied to your looks?
I've always answered this question with an astounding - YES!
And truthfully, I've gotten some heat from some of my friends (and even family) about this statement, but I do believe it's true. Our confidence and well-being is absolutely, positively tied to the way we look and feel about ourselves.
How is this true? Or better yet, why do I feel this way?
Let's take one of the most important and special day's of your life - your wedding day. You spend months (even years!) planning for this special day. You want everything to be perfect - the day, the location, the flowers, the food, the music, the guest list, the decorations, the pictures, the video... and - of course, YOU. You want to look the most beautiful you've ever looked before in your life. Feeling beautiful brings confidence. You want the perfect dress, the perfect hair, the perfect makeup, the perfect shoes, the perfect veil... the perfect everything. I remember that day for me, I wanted all of that (and more!). I felt that way on my wedding day... and I felt more confident and more beautiful than ever before in my life...
After I became a mother, it's funny - I started thinking, I want to look good and be beautiful and feel confident now even more for my sons. My priority shifted from me, to my family. I knew working out and taking care of myself (inside and out) reflected on how I perceived myself. When I worked out, I felt good. When I dressed up, I felt good. When I would get my hair highlighted, I felt good. When I would take the time to wax my eyebrows (oh, yes!), I felt good. Even get a manicure and a pedicure, I felt good! When you feel good, you feel confident. I truly feel that way.
Now, I'm not saying you need to be groomed from head-to-toe and workout every single day to feel good and feel confident. It really does come down to taking care of yourself, in every aspect of your life. It doesn't mean you need to be sporting a luxurious bag, but it does mean that you need to take the time to think about YOU. I always joke with my husband that I personally have a few items that when I'm wearing them, I feel more confident about myself. I cannot believe I'm going to share some of them, but I wanted to give some good examples as to how I (personally) tie my looks (inside and out) to feeling confident. These are my good ol' standbys...
1. A REALLY GOOD BRA...
*Disclaimer - This is not me. :)
Don't laugh, I'm uber serious here! When I'm sporting a good bra, I feel good. That being said, I was not endowed heavily on the top side, so I have to work with what I've got. I've found throughout the years so really great bras that absolutely make me feel good about myself. Again, it may seem silly - but, really... you know how you feel when you're rocking a good bra!
2. Power Suit
Oh, yes... a POWER SUIT! With the work that I'm in (digital mom world), I don't always need to be sporting a suit, but I'll tell you what - when I have to... when I do... the confidence is there. There's something about a suit, it gives the air and the energy of confidence, and it really does work like magic. When I first went for my interview at Donna Karan (back in 2000!), I wore a suit and I felt invincible!
3. TREADMILLING it!
When I work out, I feel good. It doesn't matter how far I walk or run, it's just that I'm doing it. I'm doing something for myself that's helping me on the inside and on the outside. Our well-being and confidence is built upon the inner and outer workings of ourselves, when we work out, we're doing something GOOD for ourselves. It doesn't matter what it is - biking, swimming, tennis, yoga, pilates, weight training - it's just important to get moving and do something to benefit YOU.
4. HIgh Heels/Pumps
The higher the heel, the more confident I get! ;) I'm kidding... at 5 feet tall, I love heels because they really do make me feel more confident. It's the extra height. It's the sexiness factor. It's everything, and I love it! I highly recommend adding a fabulous pair of heels into your wardrobe... !
5. Making sure I know my size...
I know the size isn't always the size we want to see... but when we know it, we can dress ourselves accordingly. If you're out and about in clothing that is too tight ot too big, do you feel confident? You're more fixated on the fact that you feel uncomfortable, right? That's not the way you want it to be. Make sure you know what looks good on you, what feels good on you and what makes you feel the most confident. We all have that ONE item that we love to wear, try and find more clothing like that. It all comes down to fit, comfort and style.